Forgiveness & Purpose: A Journey to Healing and Rediscovery
We all know how hard it can be to move on following a divorce. It’s difficult to forgive ourselves and the other person involved; it can feel like an impossible task. In this post, we’ll discuss what forgiveness is and isn’t, how to forgive others and ourselves, why forgiveness is critical to moving forward, and how divorce offers you the opportunity to discover a new purpose in your life.
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is often misconstrued as something that’s simply ‘letting go’ of the pain and hurt that comes from a traumatic experience. In reality, true forgiveness is much more than that. It’s an acceptance of where you are, an understanding of the impact of this experience, and an acknowledgment that it has changed you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget or ignore past events, but rather that you accept them, learn from them, and find a way to move on with your life in a healthy way.
How to Forgive Others and Yourself
It can be hard to forgive someone who has wronged you, especially during times of personal strife like divorce. But learning to forgive is one of the most important steps in healing after a divorce. Start by acknowledging the pain and hurt that have been inflicted upon you, and then decide how best to direct your feelings–should they be directed towards anger, resentment, or even compassion? Remember too that self-forgiveness is just as important–it’s easy to blame yourself for the relationship ending, but it takes courage to recognize that sometimes things just don’t work out. Forgiving yourself means recognizing the strength and resilience within you to get through tough times.
Why Forgiveness is Critical to Moving Forward
Forgiveness is essential for closure–both emotionally and mentally. When we allow ourselves to forgive, we open up space for growth, learning, and eventually joy once again. Forgiveness isn’t always easy, but it does free us from the chains of our past and helps us move forward in life with a clear mind and heart.
How Divorce Offers You the Opportunity to Discover a New Purpose
Divorce can be a difficult journey, but it also offers an opportunity for rediscovery. Take this time to reflect on what matters to you, what brings you joy, or what goals you want to set for your future. Ask yourself questions such as “Who do I want to be?” and “What do I want to achieve?” Declaring your intentions sets in motion a stream of motivation and focus which can lead you down a new path of purposeful living.
The Distinction between Life Purpose and Being Purposeful
It’s important to differentiate between life purpose and being purposeful. Life purpose relates to a sense of direction for our lives – having a goal or mission that concepts larger than ourselves. Being purposeful is about taking action each day that works towards fulfilling your life purpose or goals. This could be a series of small daily steps to bring you closer to achieving your goals, or simply enjoying the pleasure of accomplishing something meaningful. So make sure that whatever direction you take, it come from your own sense of purposefulness.